Happiness is a matter of one's most ordinary everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self. To be damned is for one's ordinary everyday mode of consciousness to be unremitting agonizing preoccupation with self. Iris Murdoch (b. 1919), British novelist, philosopher. Willy Kost, in The Nice and the Good, ch. 22 (1968).
A POEM FROM LC - Thank you to Laura for showing me love
after the devastating event.
This next part is in response to some people who did not understand my sense of humor.
Like the picture with the neck and the word cripple. So that no one goes away thinking I'm
a sniveling, self-pitying idiot that's trying to get everyone to feel sorry for me I've
included a little personal philosophy. Hey, if you can't take a joke then too bad!
The world owes me nothing and neither do you or anyone else. Do not give me false credit for being happy and please, don't take this harsh. It's not meant that way. It's just that life is not fair and I don't expect it to be. I love life the way it is. To feel good and bad are life's greatest gifts. To live life without risk is not living and I Choose To Live!
Regarding my accident (Breaking My Neck), What happened to me is what happened to me. It is therefore my responsibility to deal with and go forward. This is not to say that it did not hurt anyone else because I know it did and for them I truly felt sorry for the agony I caused. it was in their hurt that I drew strength to conquer my own pain for those that cared were victims of my accident in ways that I could have ever imagined until I experienced it.
For me, I dealt with my accident soon after it happened and I Will Never Have To Deal With It (Pain, Hurt, Despair) Again. I can not change it but I accept it and I choose to feel good and to enjoy my life. This may sound trite but it is how I live. I go to bed at night with a mind at peace. I know there will be other tragedies to come and I will have to work on them as I have had to work on others. Nothing is free in this world and as I stated before, I Don't Expect Anything To Be "Mine" Because I Deserve It.
The motive behind this homepage is not to secure sympathy from anyone because this is not my goal. My goal is to let others know that life is as wonderful as you allow it to be. It’s also a forum to be a stand-up comedian when standing isn't possible. Ha, ha I say because without humor and an ability to laugh at oneself a person becomes entangled in their own "importance." nobody wants to hang out with a person who is a downer. Do you?
Life is not a matter of money, looks, ownership or selfishness; it's a case of loyalty, friendship and family. It’s the participation in the "job" of living. It’s taking that job seriously and doing your best to give to others, which promotes happiness. It’s knowing that you do have the power to make yourself feel good and that it's only a matter of recognizing your own potential and working on it. But as with any picture that is painted, it is the observer that uses his or her own understanding and perspective to interpret what the painter has painted.
It goes something like this: I am responsible for how I feel and what do!
Responsibility is the key. I take it to its limit. I don't blame anyone for how I feel. I don't need a reason for everything that happens because some events have no answer. In religious terms it would be something akin to saint Jude’s prayer. I know it sounds simple but it works for me. I’m not hiding some inner pain and I’m positive. If you were to meet anyone who has known me or lived with me they would attest to my happiness. My friends and family are my life and my joy is my fortune.
Many people think that handicapped people are depressed and living in a world of self-pity. This may be true of any person but with a physically disabled person their disability is in plain view and it seems apparent that a person with such limitations would be unhappy. This is totally a false assumption. I don't feel sorry for myself because I am a very fortunate person.
What I would like to get from other people is their realization that life is only what you decide it is. Life sucks for those that can't accept the fact that living is a big job that you have to work hard every day and that happiness is a big project, but if you'll work at it it's attainable. There’s no easy road unless you think work is easy.
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